90 Day Fiancé cast member Michael Ilesanmi has received a sympathy vote from fans thanks to the way Angela Deem treats him, but the truth remains that Michael isn’t the angel he wants them to think he is. The 32-year-old from Nigeria met Angela online in 2017 after lying about his age. She eventually overcame the 22-year age gap and married Michael in 2020. Angela has come close to divorcing Michael many times, but still, the couple remains together in 2023 after everything that has happened.
Michael is a soft-spoken 90 Day Fiancé cast member who is calm and reserved, the complete opposite of the loud and fiery Angela. But opposites may have attracted in this case, only for green card purposes. Michael has put up with Angela despite all the disrespect she throws his way. If it’s not all about love, then Michael really does know how to play this game.
Angela was a 52-year-old nursing assistant in Georgia when she was approached by Michael, who was 30. Michael messaged Angela saying, “You look pretty today, good morning,” on Facebook out of the blue. He told Angela he was 40 years old, and she pretended to be 50. Angela soon found out Michael was from Nigeria, which she heard was “the scamming capital of the world.” She was skeptical, but the pair talked “20, 30 times a day.” Angela might’ve been wrong to believe Michael really found her “pretty.” Nigerian romance scams have made it to the news often, and Angela might be a victim of a long game.
9 90 Day Fiancé’s Michael Stared Down A Woman In A Club
Angela always had insecurities about her age and looks, and Michael’s behavior elevated this insecurity to another level. The couple had infamously visited a strip club for a joint bachelor/bachelorette party in Nigeria ahead of their wedding in January 2020. Angela caught Michael staring at a dancer and lost her cool, enough for her to yell at Michael in front of his friends and walk out of the club. “I’m getting ready to marry this man and he just made me feel like s**t,” Angela told the camera. Michael hadn’t stopped looking at the dancer when Angela tried to make him jealous by dancing with his friend Dre.
8 Angela Deem Thought Michael Conned Her Into Marriage
During 90 Day Fiance: Happily Ever After? season 6, Angela was recovering from her weight loss surgeries while Michael wasn’t paying her any heed. Angela begged and pleaded for attention from Michael, and him not obeying made her livid. She told the cameras that Michael changed after they tied the knot. “Maybe, Michael didn’t marry me for the right reasons,” Angela said, not ever imagining that Michael would treat her so badly. Angela told Michael their relationship was over, but it looks like Michael knows that even though Angela treats him badly, she doesn’t stay mad for long and reenters the toxic relationship.
7 Angela Deem Always Had Doubts About Michael Ilesanmi
Michael’s irresistible charms might be the reason why Angela stayed together with him despite their innumerable fights. Michael’s ignorance back then made Angela suspect he was cheating on her, and she even tried to get a GPS tracker installed in his phone. Angela knows she’s tried every trick in the book to make their relationship work. While people give Angela a hard time about getting flirty with her doctors, it’s possible she does it just to get Michael’s attention. “I’ve married him. I even tried to have babies. What has he given me? He’s put me through pure hell,” Angela admitted, while questioning her decision to stay married to her unfaithful husband.
6 Angela Stayed Because She’s Invested In Michael (Emotionally & Financially)
In all likeliness, Angela has also kept giving Michael multiple chances because of how much she’s invested in the relationship. Not just with her time and money, but also emotionally. In economic terms, this phenomenon is called the “sunk cost fallacy.” The more time Angela has spent trying to make things work, the more she’s willing to keep spending because she expects Michael to work as hard as her. In reality, Angela should just expect that what she had with Michael, or the love that Michael made her believe was between them, is long gone.
5 Michael Told Another Woman He Loved Her While He Was With Angela
It’s not like Angela hasn’t caught Michael red-handed while he was being adulterous in their marriage. During the Happily Ever After? season 7 Tell-All, Angela sobbed and exposed Michael for telling a different woman he loved her while he was in bed with his wife. “I found out that he was doing this the whole time that — when we made up,” Angela told her co-stars. “He knew what he was doing,” She remembered to mention about Michael. “When you’re telling another b**** that you love them, and I’m in the bed with you. And you want me to believe you love me?” Angela asked Michael, who didn’t look remorseful at all.
4 Michael Was Against Angela’s Breast Reduction Procedure
Angela and Michael couldn’t meet for almost two years after they married due to the COVID-19 pandemic travel restrictions. Angela was unable to fly to Nigeria while Michael’s visa was still pending. “Michael is still going to be as young as he looked the day I married him. So if I’m not young, I need to at least look the damn part and it starts with my weight.” One of the steps required for Angela’s weight loss surgery was a breast reduction, but Michael didn’t support her decision. Michael’s love for Angela was superficial, which he proved when he told her to not get the surgery because he liked her “big things.”
3 Michael & Angela’s Age Gap Was Worrisome
Angela ended up getting breast implants later just to keep Michael happy, which is one thing she’s done for her young husband. In her heart, Angela knows Michael will stray once he’s in America and sees younger women around him. She went under the knife because of her health conditions, but looking younger for Michael was the bigger reason. Age might’ve just been a number to Angela when she realized Michael was 22 years younger than her. Michael has only shown an active interest in younger women when he’s tried to hoodwink Angela. It does suggest that he’s not into older women like Angela and is with her for ulterior motives.
Knowing how easy it is for Michael to start an online relationship with any other woman as he did with Angela made her restrict him from making social media accounts. When Angela found out Michael created an Instagram account anyway, she asked him to take it down. At first, Michael demanded $5,000 in exchange for deleting the page, but he later claimed he wanted to become an Instagram influencer so he could help Angela make some money. Michael’s ultimatum may have looked like an act of rebellion, but sounded more like something a scammer would do when caught in the act.
1 Michael Actually Cheated On Angela Deem
Angela got so angry, she even flew to Nigeria without even telling Michael and wrecked his car. She might’ve remembered the first time she caught Michael cheating on her. “I did the BJ thing,” Michael confessed. According to Michael, he had given a neighborhood woman a ride and because she didn’t have any money, he accepted oral sex from her in the form of payment. “Apart from that…I didn’t do anything with anyone else,” he claimed at the time. But the 90 Day Fiancé star recently admitted he had a 30-year-old girlfriend in America he met on Instagram; perhaps just one of many women he’s charmed to date.
This story originally appeared on Screenrant
