The Real Reason This Controversial 90 Day Fiancé Couple’s Marriage Is Falling Apart

Sarper Güven from 90 Day Fiancé may be responsible for ruining his relationship with Shekinah Garner. Sarper, a 45-year-old Turkish man, fell in love with Shekinah, a 43-year-old woman from Los Angeles, after meeting on a dating app. They dated for a while before entering into a serious relationship. While Sarper loved Shekinah, he also attempted to change her physical appearance. He pressured her to maintain a certain weight, controlled her diet, and selected her outfits. Sarper controlled other aspects of Shekinah’s life and even played a role in her cosmetic surgery, designing her new nose.

After spending most of his life in Turkey, Sarper moved to the United States on a K-1 visa in 90 Day Fiancé season 11. He decided to marry Shekinah but wasn’t entirely at ease living in her small apartment in Los Angeles. Sarper faced several new challenges with Shekinah, but they were able to overcome their issues and ultimately get married in the season finale. Instead of having a traditional wedding ceremony, Sarper and Shekinah opted for “bedding.” However, things didn’t go as smoothly as they had hoped because Shekinah wasn’t pleased with the bedroom layout and decorations.

Sarper & Shekinah’s Marriage Took A Turn For The Worse Post-Wedding

Sarper & Shekinah Aren’t In A Happy Marriage

Before their wedding, Sarper and Shekinah faced constant relationship challenges. From the beginning, Sarper tried to dominate every aspect of Shekinah’s life in an effort to shape her into his ideal partner. Likewise, Shekinah also sought to exert control over Sarper by setting three non-negotiable conditions: for him to stop training female clients, give up smoking, and make their relationship public on social media. She also grappled with accepting Sarper’s extensive sexual history, which included physical relationships with over 2,500 women prior to her.

Sarper and Shekinah’s problems only got worse after they moved in together in the United States. Sarper felt trapped in Shekinah’s small home and was direct about his feelings. Most recently, the couple appeared in 90 Day Fiancé season 11 Tell All, where he shared that his marriage quickly deteriorated just a month after the wedding. He stated, “She kicked me off the house, so I left the ring and I went out,” and mentioned that he stayed in a rental for ten days. Shekinah confirmed, “This is less than a month after we got married.”

Sarper Publicly Criticized Shekinah

Sarper’s Frustration With Shekinah Keeps Growing

He has confessed to having a controlling personality and a short temper, often leading to explosive fights between them. Sarper doesn’t try to be polite during these arguments. Instead, he speaks his mind without filtering his words, even if they might hurt their relationship. Recently, he posted Instagram Stories mocking his wife, Shekinah, for undergoing cosmetic surgery. He wrote (via @kikiandkibbitz), “she is nonstop doing something, the number of ‘recovering days; is more than ‘regular days’ in our life.”

Sarper hasn’t only mocked Shekinah on social media but also in front of his co-stars during Tell All. He expressed his dislike of the marriage due to Shekinah and her expectations that he take on responsibilities. Sarper complained that Shekinah would constantly ask him to do household chores, such as taking out the garbage, walking the dog, going shopping, driving her to places, and fixing things. He even compared Shekinah to a dog on camera, stating, “You will lose me just because of you. And you will regret like a dog.”

Shekinah Wants To Leave Los Angeles

Shekinah No Longer Considers LA Her Home

Recently, Shekinah revealed that she no longer wants to live in Los Angeles. She said (via @shabootydotcom), “I don’t know what the future holds. I don’t want to be in LA much longer.” While Shekinah didn’t make it clear if she was moving out of Los Angeles because of her husband, Sarper, she indicated that she didn’t want to build her future in California. She wants to live somewhere where she can afford a better place to live.

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It wouldn’t be surprising if Sarper did indeed cause Shekinah to move to another state. He has been problematic, creating turmoil in his and Shekinah’s lives. When Sarper first arrived in the US, he wasted no time in criticizing Shekinah’s living situation. He made fun of her house and the fact that she had converted a part of it into her workspace. Sarper even compared living in her home to being in prison, saying that he and Shekinah’s dog were “prison inmates.” Shekinah may have decided to leave Los Angeles because she was tired of Sarper’s constant complaints.

Are Shekinah & Sarper Joining 90 Day: The Last Resort?

“We Need So Much Therapy”

There has been speculation that Sarper and Shekinah are on the brink of getting a divorce. However, there is a possibility that they will attend therapy before making a decision about their relationship. During the recent Tell All, Shekinah discussed the difficulties she has been facing in her marriage to Sarper. She expressed, “we need so much therapy,” revealing that seeking professional help may be her next step. If Sarper and Shekinah do pursue therapy, they will likely do so on camera in 90 Day: The Last Resort season 3, sharing their journey with viewers.

Is Shekinah or Sarper The Real Villain In Their Unhealthy Marriage?

Sarper Likes Being In Control & Lacks Empathy

Sarper is clearly the main reason his relationship with Shekinah is falling apart. However, it would be wrong to solely blame him for the issues in the relationship, as Shekinah’s personality and constant complaining also provoke his angry outbursts. Both Sarper and Shekinah are equally responsible for their marital problems. Sarper is at fault for being controlling and insensitive, while Shekinah’s inability to understand his personality and tendency to pick fights over trivial matters also contribute to their problems. Hopefully, their relationship has improved since filming 90 Day Fiancé season 11 Tell All.

Source: @kikiandkibbitz/Instagram, @shabootydotcom/Instagram

90 Day Fiancé

Release Date

January 12, 2014

Network

TLC

Showrunner

Kyle Hamley

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